To seek the purpose in which we were brought to this earth. To gain control over our own lives. To be masters of our own fate. These are just a couple of things that most people would hope to find. Such goals are self-centered, which in turn gives way to all sorts of doubts, suspicions and questions.
The power of to have control over ourselves has always been a natural instinct. To think that we are able to handle issues and problems in all or most aspects of our lives. But what we seldom realize is that such thinking is flawed. Humans were never meant to be solitary creatures. We crave for companionship and seek for like-minded individuals like ourselves. We socialize in gatherings, and have a tendency to seek comfort in others when our problems become to great for ourselves to handle. But yet, the thought of keeping ourselves in control, to demand order and attempt to confront any physical or emotional problems by ourselves have become prevalent. All because of one thing: Expectations. We simply cannot entertain the thought of not meeting the expectations of our friends and families. The thought of disappointing them scares us. Ultimately, and ironically, as we continue to seek control over our lives, slowly but surely, that very control in which we seek slips out of our grasps. In the end, we live the life of what people perceive us to be, and not what we are meant to be.
As much as we try not to, the opinions of others still affect us, the expectations of others still bring pressure to us and the limits we set for ourselves are somehow governed by how others view us. It is a natural human reaction, and it is hard for us to deny such things from happening.
God made us all similar yet different. We are all blessed with different sets of qualities unique to us. No two humans are ever the same, they may be similar, but never identical. So why is it that we allow the expectations of another individual govern us? When we should be striving to meet the expectations and goals in which God has set down within our paths. Only He knows the plans for each of us, for He created us. Who are we otherwise to listen not to Him but to others? Who are we otherwise to not live our lives as He created us to be, but to live the lives that others have created for us through their expectations and mental images of us?
I’m not saying that its wrong for us to set limits for ourselves. Neither is it wrong to have expectations for ourselves either. But do all those with God in mind.When we leave Him out of the picture, we instead try to accomplish feats with our own strength. However, we are weak, in the end, we tend to bite off more than we can chew. On the other hand, there is no limit to the wonders and gifts that God can provide for us, and ultimately, He has a plan for us in which grow and learn according to His pace. Seek to set your expectations with God, and you will find that your expectations will be met. Don’t try to push yourself to the limit on your own accord, trust in God to stretch you and expand your limits bit by bit. To do otherwise will only result in tiring yourself physically, mentally and spiritually. There is no purpose in trying to live for the expectations of others, for they will be endless and of all kinds. Instead, live with the purpose of serving God. It is far easier to serve one than to serve the masses, and since He is the One and only, serving Him will ultimately allow you to serve others as well.
Do all things with God in mind, and those things will cease to be a chore or tiring. In all things in life, whatever you may choose to pursue: “Do your best, let God do the rest.” Trust in Him to guide and grow you, like how a son would trust his father to do the same. No parent would ever wish the worst for their child. As a child of God, know that He does all things with the best intentions for you. Let go of the need for control and the wishful thinking of absolution, remember who is your maker, for He is just and kind to all. Realize instead that He is control of you, and seek instead to serve Him better.